I used to hate washing my face at night!
I know it sounds stupid, but taking that time before bed used to seem so daunting to me. I would wake up in the morning with yesterday’s mascara smudged down my face; my skin felt gross and I felt so disappointed with myself for not washing my face the night before. I would shamefully wash my face each morning before putting on my makeup for the day.
I recently purchased some Canadian made natural/organic skincare products and I was so excited to try them. For encouragement, I decided to challenge myself to wash my face every night before bed for 30 days. At first it was hard, but the feeling of my clean skin in the morning was so worth it. Now I love the “ritual” of my new nighttime regime and I’ve started to think of it as part of my self-care… the smells and the feeling of the products on my skin are luxurious.
Why am I telling you this? Because an interesting thing happened during those 30 days… and beyond, of course because I still do it!
I started taking better care of my body in other ways.
I decided that I deserved to feel good on the inside too! This small but mighty ritual spilled over into other parts of my day. Soon I developed other little mini rituals (or habits) throughout my day that made me feel good.
Now I’m not suggesting that you can lose weight by washing your face. What I am suggesting, though, is that when you start to ome self-care, it might just overflow into other areas of your life.
How do you practice self-care?
It’s not because you like carbs…
It’s not because you eat too much sugar…
It’s not because you don’t exercise…
It’s not because you drink too much alcohol…
The #1 reason you can’t lose weight is because deep down, you don’t think you’re worth it.
You don’t really believe that you deserve to take care of yourself. WHAT?!? Yes, this is so very true! How do I know this? Because not that long ago, I felt that way too (and I didn’t even know it).
Not convinced? Ok, answer these questions for me… honestly:
Do you put everyone else in your life first?
Do you have time yourself on your own calendar?
Are you the first to cancel your plans to accommodate others?
Did you answer ‘yes’ to any of those questions, or maybe even to all of them?
Don’t feel bad if you did- you were probably taught those values! There is a long-held belief in our society that people are worthy of respect when they put others before themselves. People often evaluate their own worth (and the degree to which they deserve value by others) by their ability to contribute and place the needs of others before themselves.
Along with this belief is the idea that self-care is self-indulgent. Maybe you delay getting a much needed massage, your hair cut or going to lunch with a friend because there are just so many other things to cram into your day. However, we can only sustain physical health and emotional health when self-care is a priority. This is true for both women and men.
Self-care is not indulgent… it’s essential.
When your needs are met and self-care is a non-negotiable priority, you can come to the world as the best version of yourself; fully nourished and ready to nourish those around you.
In fact, giving yourself permission to take care of yourself is probably the best thing you can do for the people in your life. Not only will you be happier and healthier, but those around you will be, too.
When you are busy or overwhelmed, it can be a challenge to squeeze in quality self-care and way too easy to resort to overeating, emotional eating, drinking, watching too much TV, gossiping, facebooking, and the list goes on…
What can you do today to start taking care of YOU? It doesn’t have to be complicated or take a lot of time. Next time I’ll share my top 3 self-care strategies. Once you start reintroducing self-care, you’ll realize that you are worth it!
Welcome back! Thank you for being here.
In my first post I talked a little about what I do (In case you missed it, you can read it here) and today I am talking about my WHY. I will share a little about the wake-up call that led me to the work I do: helping women from all over the world lose weight, stress less and put themselves on their to-do list.
I worked in the pharmaceutical industry, a very rewarding, yet stress-filled career.
From the outside, I looked like I had it all together.
It was all perception. I was a YES woman, a chronic people pleaser in search of some form of validation, for someone to tell me I was good enough… I pushed myself to the limits daily in order to find validation and I used food to help keep me comforted.I worked in the pharmaceutical industry, a very rewarding, yet stress-filled career.
Then one night I woke up on the floor of my hotel room…
I had fainted, twice. The poor lady trying to sleep below me heard loud noises and she checked on me after the second fall. I had split my chin open on the first fall and we found a pool of blood on the floor.
I was rushed to the hospital. I felt scared, lonely, fearful, and I was afraid to go to sleep in case I didn’t wake up! I also felt desperate. All I could think of was that I was alone, on the floor bleeding. What if I hadn’t woken up so soon afterwards? What would my family do? I was so far away from home!
After some stitches and a lot of tests, the doctors could not find anything wrong with me.
Apparently, I was exhausted…
No kidding! I was exhausted from working late all the time, from traveling home late at night so my son could see me in the morning, from leaving after my son went to sleep so I wouldn’t miss putting him to bed… I was looking after everyone but me.
The whole point is that I completely let myself go uncared for and unloved, by the person who matters most… ME!
I realized that I needed to take care of me and that I’m the only one whose validation I needed all along. I started practicing yoga, which was strange for me as I used to teach aerobics and work out at a gym. I fell in love with yoga and eventually began to have a new relationship with my body. I started eating differently. I started respecting myself.
Over time I actually started to like myself and my body, even though it wasn’t perfect. I continued to do a lot of inner work. For the first time I could honestly say I loved myself. I lost weight naturally… I craved healthy food. I then went on to complete a certification in health coaching, I become a yoga teacher and I opened a yoga studio (more on these to come!).
I realize now that I was meant to go through everything I went through so that I can help other women who are going down the same path. I help women realize they are so worth taking care of and I help them figure out why they overeat- before they have their own wakeup call.
Stick around and you will see why self-care is my number one weight loss secret… OK, I guess it’s not such a secret since I just told you what it was 🙂
That’s right! I’ve lost over 200 pounds.
That is, the same 20 pounds again and again and again…
Hi there! In case we haven’t met, I’m Jo-Ann. I’m an anti-diet and self-love activist and I help women get off the diet roller coaster for good. As a former professional dieter and people-pleaser perfectionist, I can tell you first hand that getting off that diet roller is possible. That’s why I’ve decided to start a blog and share my story.
My roller coaster ride began when I was 12.
I went to Weight Watchers with my mother. I was the youngest person there and I got quite a bit of attention; since I prided myself on others liking me, I wanted to do a good job. Week after week I would lose a pound or two, get my little book stamped and get applause at the meeting along with the other “losers” that week.
I learned not to eat before the weigh in and to be sure to go pee one last time before getting on the scale.
I watched the other women and learned to take as much clothing off as possible and to NEVER wear jeans to a weigh in, except on the first day… and I don’t think I’m alone here. If you’ve found me and this blog, it’s likely that you’ve done the exact same things.
I lost 18 pounds that summer eating plain chicken breast, salad and skim milk… blah! I’m not sure how long it took to gain the weight back the first time, but I do know that between the age of 12 and 18 I must have tried another 4 or 5 diets, at least! And the same story goes on for years… 30 plus years. It took a pretty big wake up call for me to figure things out and that is what led me to help other women do the same.
You see the problem is that diets actually work. Yes, I just said that! They do… while you are on them. Once you stop dieting and are left to your own habits you go back to old eating patterns and the weight comes back, plus more.
You lose it, you gain it. Again and again and again.
The big question is WHY? I believe one of the main reasons is that diets focus on “what” you eat and not “why” you eat.
I help women figure out “why” they eat. Of course this takes some work but it is very doable! My goal is to help food become nourishment rather than comfort or punishment. I hope that we can get to know each other better and that I can even inspire you to figure out your “why” and to get off the diet roller coaster- for good.