It’s not because you like carbs…
It’s not because you eat too much sugar…
It’s not because you don’t exercise…
It’s not because you drink too much alcohol…
The #1 reason you can’t lose weight is because deep down, you don’t think you’re worth it.
You don’t really believe that you deserve to take care of yourself. WHAT?!? Yes, this is so very true! How do I know this? Because not that long ago, I felt that way too (and I didn’t even know it).
Not convinced? Ok, answer these questions for me… honestly:
Do you put everyone else in your life first?
Do you have time yourself on your own calendar?
Are you the first to cancel your plans to accommodate others?
Did you answer ‘yes’ to any of those questions, or maybe even to all of them?
Don’t feel bad if you did- you were probably taught those values! There is a long-held belief in our society that people are worthy of respect when they put others before themselves. People often evaluate their own worth (and the degree to which they deserve value by others) by their ability to contribute and place the needs of others before themselves.
Along with this belief is the idea that self-care is self-indulgent. Maybe you delay getting a much needed massage, your hair cut or going to lunch with a friend because there are just so many other things to cram into your day. However, we can only sustain physical health and emotional health when self-care is a priority. This is true for both women and men.
Self-care is not indulgent… it’s essential.
When your needs are met and self-care is a non-negotiable priority, you can come to the world as the best version of yourself; fully nourished and ready to nourish those around you.
In fact, giving yourself permission to take care of yourself is probably the best thing you can do for the people in your life. Not only will you be happier and healthier, but those around you will be, too.
When you are busy or overwhelmed, it can be a challenge to squeeze in quality self-care and way too easy to resort to overeating, emotional eating, drinking, watching too much TV, gossiping, facebooking, and the list goes on…
What can you do today to start taking care of YOU? It doesn’t have to be complicated or take a lot of time. Next time I’ll share my top 3 self-care strategies. Once you start reintroducing self-care, you’ll realize that you are worth it!